Occasionally, I find myself in this uncomfortable situation: I’m facilitating a team conversation that feels “icky,” off track. I wonder…
Risking vulnerability, even rejection, over demonization
One misguided solution to avoid a vulnerable conversation with someone we have an ongoing unproductive dynamic, is to build a…
Reparation heals the heart
Building a work environment safe for inter-personal risk-taking (= building psychological safety) relies as much on building trusting relationships as…
2+2=8
There are the positive attributes of care and integrity hidden in our righteousness as well as grit in our stubbornness. If we are not afraid…
Equal partnership
Equal Partnership If, like me, you sometimes say to your partner, in a self-assured-accusatory tone, “I’m always the one who…”,…
A life without humor
A good sense of humor and levity can protect us from the tyranny of our own self-importance, as well…
Being less critical
People who are overly critical of others frequently admit that they are also their worst critic, as if being critical…
Staying rigorously informed
News can serve our purpose or distract us from it. News can help us to understand the pulse of the…
Anxiety leak
Yes, I confess, sometimes I engage in degraded communication. But exclusively with my husband with whom I feel safe and…
The missing word
We, human beings, are skilled at developing all sorts of automatic numbing escapist strategies to forget what makes us feel…